Hosting an Au Pair as a single parent

 

Single parents are more likely to need help with childcare and with housework than parents from a “standard” household (where both parents are available on a daily basis).

 

While hosting an Au Pair is a very practical solution to the issues of single parenting, it is a bit more difficult for single mums and, especially, dads to find Au Pairs that are willing to work with them. 

 

Keep reading to find out why and how you could change this!

In the absence of one of the two parents, it becomes easy for the Au Pair to assume the role of a substitute parent or, in some cases, of a housekeeper. This is unfortunately not supposed to happen, as Au Pairs are mostly quite young and taking up such big responsibilities would also be against the Au Pair regulations. 

 

In order to avoid this, when hosting an Au Pair, it is important to find a balance in the amount of work done by the Host Mum/Host Dad and the Au Pair. 

 

Au Pairs should feel part of the family, but it is crucial to stick to the contract and follow the general rules of the program.

 

This means that the Au Pair should not work more hours han what he/she is supposed to, nor should he/she carry out tasks that don't belong to the Au Pair's scope of responsibility.

One other reason that makes it harder for single parents to find an Au Pair is the potential risk for the work relations to turn into a relationship that resembles a marriage, also from a romantic point of view. This is a common worry among Au Pairs, especially women, who can find themselves in a position of subordination without knowing how to act in these circumstances. 

 

Therefore, it is important for the Host Parent to be careful with the use of certain expressions or comments towards the Au Pair, so that he/she doesn't feel uncomfortable in the work environment.