au pair

Host Family experience: How to host an Au Pair

⏱ Reading time: 5 min.
Are you considering hosting an Au Pair in your home, but don't know yet if it is really the right thing for you?

In this article, we have summarised the most important factors of a well-functioning Au Pair stay.

If you would like to read authentic testimonials from Host Families directly, you can find the opinions of hundreds of families here.
host family experience
You have decided to host a young person in your family who will take care of your children and live in your home. What things should you consider in order to build a positive relationship with your Au Pair?

Host an Au Pair: Testimonials

Especially for families who want to host an Au Pair for the first time, it is worthwhile to learn from the experiences of other Host Families. Browse our testimonial database to find comparable families who found their Au Pair with the help of And not only that: Look at the other side as well! It is not only exciting but also very informative to look at the perspective of the participating Au Pairs. In the Au Pair testimonials section, you can read in black and white what matters to Au Pairs during this cultural exchange, what factors bothered them and how they imagine a successful Au Pair stay. With this knowledge, you are well equipped to spend a wonderful Host Family experience!

Embracing and teaching cultural differences

Your Au Pair probably comes from a different culture than yours, in some cases the culture may even seem very exotic to you. With an open mind and a good understanding of the other culture, you will start well in your Host Family experience.
Of course the main goal of the Au Pair is to learn the language and get to know the culture of the host country - your country. Try to help the Au Pair with cultural differences and be patient when teaching your culture or way of living. 

Our contest

We all know that the Au Pair program could be an amazing opportunity to discover new cultures, gain a temporary family member and find an affordable childcare solution. Hosting an Au Pair can be fascinating too: it lets you discover the new perspectives that the new family member brings into your house. Hosting an almost unknown person from a different country is a great step forward for every family - there is simply no better way to show your children diversity and widen their horizon.

Share your story about your experience as a Host Family with us. We will read them all and publish the most amazing ones. If your story gets published, you'll receive a free Premium membership for one month! Have fun writing!
Your email address
Your story

Try to integrate aspects of the other culture, such as a typical dish, music, etc. In this way, you make it easier for the Au Pair to get used to the new culture and you benefit from the new impressions and get to know new tastes.

Tolerance is an important point: Maybe your Au Pair belongs to a different religion or is shy or even very affectionate at the beginning. Try to understand your Au Pair and tolerate foreign habits.

Always remember that an Au Pair is not an employee but a new member of the family. So the more you learn from each other, the better your experience as a Host Family and the Au Pair experience in general will be.

Finding a suitable Au Pair

Finding a suitable Au Pair can be more complex than you think. Hints in the Au Pair profile give you important clues as to whether the Au Pair is a good match for you and your family. Take this point very seriously. Only if the Host Family and the Au Pair really fit together, you can guarantee a stable relationship and a positive Host Family experience. Here, too, it is worth taking a look at the testimonials of our former or current Host Families. Most parents emphasise how important it is to get to know each other properly before the stay, not only via chat, but personally in a video interview.

Through the profile of your potential Au Pair, you will get a first impression of the person. Look at the description - this is the heart of every profile. Au Pairs with short, meaningless or no description at all do not give any information about themselves. Look for Au Pairs with a complete description instead.


Experience in childcare is also an important factor. Au Pairs who have had to take care of their younger siblings or cousins are promising candidates. Experience working with children is also a big plus. Meanwhile, you can take notes on the individual Au Pairs and think about what questions you would like to ask during a video interview with your future Au Pair.


Another important point is the hobbies or sports activities of the Au Pair. Hobbies give a good insight into the Au Pair'spersonality and skills. From this, potential leisure activities with the children can often be deduced. For example, a football enthusiastic Au Pair fits in with children who would like to play in a club. Even if your children are not enthusiastic about sports, an active Au Pair may be able to spark their interest.

Driving licence

Depending on where you live, it may be important that the Au Pair has a driving licence. Some Au Pairs are used to city life and never needed a car. However, it may be an advantage to look for an Au Pair who has a driving licence.

Response rate

Also have a look at the response rate. In the Au Pair's profile you will see three circles, one of them with a percentage. This is the Au Pair's response rate. The higher this rate, the more committed the Au Pair is in his/her search.

Experience abroad and language skills

Last but not least, Au Pairs who already have experience abroad are used to not living at home. Therefore, you do not have to worry about the Au Pair getting homesick. Au Pairs who also learn the language of the host country show a great interest in the new culture and usually have fewer problems integrating into the new environment and the new family.

Nevertheless, you should always arrange a video call with your potential Au Pair to get to know them better and to see if the first impression was right. If you can have a good conversation right away, you have found the right Au Pair. Then you will certainly have a lot to talk about during your Au Pair experience.

Free Registration as Family

How long does it take to find an Au Pair?
It depends on several factors. Make sure your profile is full and interesting for other users. Make sure that you meet the Host Family requirements set by the Au Pair program. Be active and contact about 10-15 Au Pairs per day. If you follow the three tips above you can find a suitable match within one to four weeks. Check out our Host Family guide for more advice and ideas on how to find an Au Pair faster.
What are the requirements to host an Au Pair?
There are three most important requirements: the Au Pair accommodation, full board and monthly/weekly sum of pocket money. We recommend to go through the full list of requirements for Host Families. If you meet them, you can register as a Host Family today and find an Au Pair that matches your criteria.

Au Pair Costs: Can we afford an Au Pair?
Au Pair Costs: Can we afford an Au Pair? Read More »
How to become host family – what are the requirements?
How to become host family – what are the requirements? Read More »
Au Pair gifts: Ideas for the perfect present
Au Pair gifts: Ideas for the perfect present Read More »
Host Family guide – How to find an Au Pair fast and easy
Host Family guide – How to find an Au Pair fast and easy Read More »
Au Pair Programs for Host Families: List of Host Countries
Au Pair Programs for Host Families: List of Host Countries Read More »
Membership at Costs
Membership at Costs Read More »
Pro Aupair