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Host Family experience: How to host an Au Pair?

Hosting an Au Pair can be a rewarding and enriching experience—but it also requires openness, preparation, and good communication. In this article, you'll learn what makes an Au Pair stay successful and how to create a positive cultural exchange. 

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You have decided to host a young person in your family who will take care of your children and live in your home. What things should you consider in order to build a positive relationship with your Au Pair?

Host an Au Pair: Testimonials

Especially for families who want to host an Au Pair for the first time, it is worthwhile to learn from the experiences of other Host Families. Browse our testimonial database to find comparable families who found their Au Pair with the help of AuPair.com. And not only that: Look at the other side as well! It is not only exciting but also very informative to look at the perspective of the participating Au Pairs. In the Au Pair testimonials section, you can read in black and white what matters to Au Pairs during this cultural exchange, what factors bothered them and how they imagine a successful Au Pair stay. With this knowledge, you are well equipped to spend a wonderful Host Family experience!

Embracing and teaching cultural differences

Your Au Pair probably comes from a different culture than yours, in some cases the culture may even seem very exotic to you. With an open mind and a good understanding of the other culture, you will start well in your Host Family experience.
Of course the main goal of the Au Pair is to learn the language and get to know the culture of the host country - your country. Try to help the Au Pair with cultural differences and be patient when teaching your culture or way of living. 
 

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We all know that the Au Pair program could be an amazing opportunity to discover new cultures, gain a temporary family member and find an affordable childcare solution. Hosting an Au Pair can be fascinating too: it lets you discover the new perspectives that the new family member brings into your house. Hosting an almost unknown person from a different country is a great step forward for every family - there is simply no better way to show your children diversity and widen their horizon.

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Try to integrate aspects of the other culture, such as a typical dish, music, etc. In this way, you make it easier for the Au Pair to get used to the new culture and you benefit from the new impressions and get to know new tastes.

Tolerance is an important point: Maybe your Au Pair belongs to a different religion or is shy or even very affectionate at the beginning. Try to understand your Au Pair and tolerate foreign habits.

Always remember that an Au Pair is not an employee but a new member of the family. So the more you learn from each other, the better your experience as a Host Family and the Au Pair experience in general will be.

Finding a suitable Au Pair

Finding a suitable Au Pair can be more complex than you think. Hints in the Au Pair profile give you important clues as to whether the Au Pair is a good match for you and your family. Take this point very seriously. Only if the Host Family and the Au Pair really fit together, you can guarantee a stable relationship and a positive Host Family experience. Here, too, it is worth taking a look at the testimonials of our former or current Host Families. Most parents emphasise how important it is to get to know each other properly before the stay, not only via chat, but personally in a video interview.

Through the profile of your potential Au Pair, you will get a first impression of the person. Look at the description - this is the heart of every profile. Au Pairs with short, meaningless or no description at all do not give any information about themselves. Look for Au Pairs with a complete description instead.

Experience

Experience in childcare is also an important factor. Au Pairs who have had to take care of their younger siblings or cousins are promising candidates. Experience working with children is also a big plus. Meanwhile, you can take notes on the individual Au Pairs and think about what questions you would like to ask during a video interview with your future Au Pair.

Hobbies

Another important point is the hobbies or sports activities of the Au Pair. Hobbies give a good insight into the Au Pair'spersonality and skills. From this, potential leisure activities with the children can often be deduced. For example, a football enthusiastic Au Pair fits in with children who would like to play in a club. Even if your children are not enthusiastic about sports, an active Au Pair may be able to spark their interest.

Driving licence

Depending on where you live, it may be important that the Au Pair has a driving licence. Some Au Pairs are used to city life and never needed a car. However, it may be an advantage to look for an Au Pair who has a driving licence.

Response rate

Also have a look at the response rate. In the Au Pair's profile you will see three circles, one of them with a percentage. This is the Au Pair's response rate. The higher this rate, the more committed the Au Pair is in his/her search.

Experience abroad and language skills

Last but not least, Au Pairs who already have experience abroad are used to not living at home. Therefore, you do not have to worry about the Au Pair getting homesick. Au Pairs who also learn the language of the host country show a great interest in the new culture and usually have fewer problems integrating into the new environment and the new family.

Nevertheless, you should always arrange a video call with your potential Au Pair to get to know them better and to see if the first impression was right. If you can have a good conversation right away, you have found the right Au Pair. Then you will certainly have a lot to talk about during your Au Pair experience.

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How long does it take to find an Au Pair?
It depends on several factors. Make sure your profile is full and interesting for other users. Make sure that you meet the Host Family requirements set by the Au Pair program. Be active and contact about 10-15 Au Pairs per day. If you follow the three tips above you can find a suitable match within one to four weeks. Check out our Host Family guide for more advice and ideas on how to find an Au Pair faster.
What are the requirements to host an Au Pair?
There are three most important requirements: the Au Pair accommodation, full board and monthly/weekly sum of pocket money. We recommend to go through the full list of requirements for Host Families. If you meet them, you can register as a Host Family today and find an Au Pair that matches your criteria.
Can Au Pairs work more than 45 hours?
No. Every country has its own regulations for how many hours/week the Au Pair is allowed to work, and they correspond to a specific monthly pocket money. In some countries, like the USA, this includes extra babysitting hours. In other Host Countries it depends on the agreement between Au Pair and Host Family. 
How long does it take for the Premium Membership to be activated?
It depends on the payment method. If you use credit card or PayPal, the account will be upgraded right away. Sometimes you might need to log in once again to your profile to get the access to all advanced features of the Au Pair service. If you send money through a bank transfer, your account will be upgraded within 1-2 days after the payment receipt. You can always contact us after making the payment. We will upgrade your account for few days in advance! Western Union payments are the most troublesome ones. You need to provide us with all the details required to pick up your payment. We need a transfer control number, your name, surname, country, email address and possibly your account ID number. In such cases, the account will be upgraded within one week after the payment receipt. 
Do I need to cancel my Premium Membership?
No. Our Premium Membership is a one-off payment and after reaching the end date it expires on its own. You won't need to do any cancellations. If you don’t make another payment to extend your membership, we will never charge your account automatically.
Who should pay for the travel expenses?
We recommend Host Families to help Au Pairs with travel expenses, though it’s not their obligation to do so. In any case, the Au Pair needs to cover the travel costs initially. If the Host Family would like to support the Au Pair, they can repay the ticket price in monthly installments that will be added to the Au Pair's salary during 10 months. In the case of Au Pair USA and China, the ticket will be covered by the Host Family. We recommend to discuss this topic before the Au Pair’s arrival and note down the conditions in the Au Pair contract. Learn more about other Au Pair costs to participate in the program or Host Family costs for hosting an Au Pair.